Mr Paul told us during the last Psycho lecture last sem to think about/plan our funeral. As usual of most of my non-marked, non-hurdle homework I never got it done. So I got bored recently and decided to think about it. This however led me to the question, who is the funeral for? Is it for the deceased or the people the deceased left behind?
I mean the deceased is well deceased. And depending on which afterlife they believe in, they probably wouldn't even be present at their own funeral. So if the funeral is for the family of the deceased, is there really a point of 'planning my funeral'? I know what Paul wanted from it, not the actual plan but coming to terms with death.
But I'm 21. As far as I know, death is eons away. I don't really see the point/need of coming to terms with death.
Anyway back to the original assignment and it's problems. Well the main part I got to before going on a long philosophical argument of the above was the guest list. I dun want a big funeral. I don't want people there who don't actually care about me or know me at all. Y'know like relatives who barely said more than a few words to the deceased but is always present at the funeral? I just want close friends and family to be there. Whose lives were actually affected by me.
But then I slipped into the debate. These relatives and family friends probably wouldn't be here for me. They'd be here for my family who they may actually be close to. And so, wouldn't it be selfish if I say I wouldn't want these people at my funeral since I'd probably not be there at all. (But I do wanna be there.)
So after that I kinda stopped thinking about planning the funeral since it wasn't about me at all. It wouldn't matter if I wasn't very religious. If my family would feel better about doing prayers or buried the Christian way etc that would be up to them. I don't think i have the right to have any say in that. I dun even know IF I wouldn't want having that either. Like I said I stopped thinking. I dunno what it would be like when I do die or how long more it would be. I don't want people taking this as the gospel truth and all that.
Maybe one day I'll sit down and plan out a funeral that I would like. But it would probably be kept personal/secret or something so people wouldn't feel obliged to follow it. Like I said, a funeral is for the people left behind. Not for the deceased. Good god, you could play 'Ding Dong the witch is dead' for all I care though you might get some angry 'Chua's chasing you.
PS Though, please let someone who knows my music taste to choose the playlist. That is my only fixed criteria. God help the person who decides to play Bieber or Minaj or any shit like that at my funeral. I will come back and haunt you. :P Byez
